13 Things One-Child Families Are Sick of Hearing

Only children are far from a rarity these days. Yet, as many only children and their parents can attest, people are still quick to judge and comment. Has this happened to you? Pamela, mother of a nine-year-old, aptly told me, “It’s open season on only children; they remain one of the most discriminated against groups… Read More

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Will the Only Child Bashing Ever End?

More families worldwide are choosing to have one child. However, unfair attitudes still abound. Even though I, and others, have spent decades shedding light on only child discrimination and stereotypes, we continue to see and hear baseless only child bashing. Recently, I spotted advice offered in a daily newspaper’s parenting Q & A section. It… Read More

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29 Only Child Requests: Parents, the Correct Response is No

Yes, I said yes to my only child and stepped in or gave in. Saying yes is a trap only child parents fall into. Saying no, however, teaches important life lessons. Read more… Read More

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Only Child Stereotypes: Fact vs. Fiction

Proponents of large or larger families claim your only child will be spoiled, lonely, or selfish or worse. These 7 social stereotypes and others date back to the late 1890s and have no basis in fact and probably never did… … Read More

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The Firstborn-Only Child Edge

There is no right or wrong family size, but there is strong evidence demonstrating a firstborn and only child edge. In families, the finite resources parents have means that any given sibling will be given less time and attention than if they were an only child. In essence, siblings compete for whatever their parents can provide. … Read More

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Dethroned: Sharing Mom and Dad With a New Sibling

Parents of only children will likely agree: their singleton rules the roost. So, what happens when a baby is on the way? … Read More

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New Only Child Stereotype: Only Children Prone to Overweight

There’s a new only-child stereotype brewing. Are only children really more likely to be overweight or obese? A potential new stereotype links childhood obesity to family size, birth order and, specifically, to only children. Since 1896 when psychologist G. Stanley Hall pronounced only children were lonely, selfish, and bossy, these stereotypes have stuck. A number… Read More

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Older Moms: 40 is the New 30

The”older moms” trend is clear: More women in their late thirties and well into their forties are starting families.… Read More

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Mothers With One Child Are Happiest

Having an only child is desirable from a wide range of viewpoints and practicalities, but that doesn’t make decisions about family size any easier.… Read More

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When Does Mothering Become Smothering?

A parent’s impulse is to coddle, but how much is too much?

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Spoiled? Not My Kid

We live in an age of yes-parenting, in a culture of parents who can’t say NO to their offspring whatever their age and whatever the number of children in the family. Yet, it’s common practice to categorize parents of only children as indulgent and overlook the same parental behavior in parents who have more than one child.… Read More

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Do Children Need Siblings to Become Good Sports?

If your toddler refuses to share a toy or take turns, even if the person doesn’t say the words, you know she is thinking: If that child had a sibling she wouldn’t behave this way. But is it true? Do children need siblings to learn social skills?… Read More

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Shyness: Biologically Based? A Mental Disorder? or A Quirk?

When and how should a child’s shyness be treated?
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Only Child Benefits, According to Those Who Lived It

Onlies in their 20s, 40s, 60s and 70s shared their feelings and revealed five distinct advantages to being an only child.… Read More

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More Babies, More Housework for Moms? Not Necessarily

Despite the fact that more women than ever before have full-time jobs outside the home, household labor remains largely the mother’s responsibility. So perhaps it isn’t surprising that more and more women are choosing to have only one child.… Read More

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Imaginary Friends: Should Parents Worry?

Lisa’s four-year-old daughter Hannah mentioned her new friend Betsy. Lisa assumed Betsy was one of Hannah’s pre-school classmates until Hannah asked if Betsy could have dinner with them. “But she’s not here,” her mother said. “Yes, she is,” Hannah insisted. “She lives here.” … Read More

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She Wants a Baby…He Doesn’t

What happens when a couple is divided on family size? … Read More

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Note to Parents of Singletons: Your Child Won’t Be Lonely

Parents of singletons often worry that without siblings, their child might have problems sharing and making friends — and hence, will be lonely. But, this stereotype of the only child as lonely child has long been without merit. … Read More

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Raising “Star” Children: The Pressure May Be Too Great

Probably nowhere in the world is the pressure to shine greater than that exerted on Chinese only children. In a nation with a one child policy in effect for over 30 years, these children are studied and scrutinized. Their outcomes are not always positive.… Read More

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Do You Have the Energy for Another Child?

Deciding whether or not to have another child is a difficult decision. To parents of singletons who aren’t sure how an addition will impact your family, consider this oft-repeated phrase: “One is One, Two is Four…”… Read More

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Is the Economy Shrinking Family Size?

This tough economy is causing many people to actually cut back in so many different ways. Even apparently on the number of children they have. … Read More

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If Dads Help More, Will Moms Have More Babies?

Given that so many women work, one would think men would pitch in more. Employed mothers manage the same household tasks and childcare activities as homemaking mothers equaling two full-time jobs for women who work and raise children.… Read More

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The Trend: The One-Child Family

How many children is the right amount of children? Many couples are confronted with this dilemma before they decide to build a family. For some, two or four seem sound but many of these questions are more likely to be based on age-old stereotypes.… Read More

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Great Expectations: May Be Too Great for Only Children

With parents of only children, the tendency to want their children to excel can be so focused that it becomes counter-productive. Here are suggestions to benefit both parent and child.… Read More

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4 Working Attitudes for Parents of One

A parent’s approach to rearing has far more to do with the child’s behavior and eventual outcome than does the number of siblings he does or doesn’t have. In order to achieve a livable balance, parents of onlies must think big; they must operate as if they had a clan.… Read More

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If and When to Have Babies: The Happiness Measure

What is the best age to start your family? Responses from parents in 86 countries have found: “Happiness decreases with the number of children parents have.” … Read More

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