Stop Over-Gifting Your Children: Here’s Why

Think back to your childhood — specifically, your memories of the holidays. Your fondest recollections might resemble something like singing carols with your cousins, or baking a special dish with your grandparents. Or, something more festive or adventurous: a trip to the ballet, or sledding in the woods. In asking people about their warmest childhood… Read More

Meaningful Holiday Activities that Focus on Family & Gratitude

The holidays are a time for togetherness. Yet, for many families, it’s also a stressful season ruled by obligations and pricey expectations: gift-giving, attending party after party, adhering to tiresome traditions. Especially for families with young children, the unrelenting demands of the holidays can take over. Orchestrating wholesome family-friendly, meaningful holiday activities quickly take a… Read More

How Parents Can Stop Mean Girl Behavior

How Parents Can Stop Mean Girl Behavior

It’s no secret that “mean girls” are younger than ever before. But how young? Their attacks and patterns are similar to what many of us with young daughters experienced in high school. It often starts small: Choosing to exclude another girl at recess or from a birthday party. A mean post online. Then, it escalates:… Read More

5 Ways to Maximize the Morning Commute with Your Child

The ride to school and after-school activities can quickly become a tiresome chore. It’s a mad morning rush — up with the alarm, out the door, and then getting everyone where they need to be on time. For working parents, it can be tough to resist the urge to think about your upcoming tasks for… Read More

5 Family-Friendly Halloween Activities

Any holiday offers fertile ground for fostering positive family togetherness and warm memory making. Halloween, with its delightfully spooky fun, can be an especially exciting time for young children. Whatever and however you celebrate your family-friendly Halloween, it is important to include rituals and traditions. To you, Halloween may pale in comparison to higher profile,… Read More

5 Scripts to Use with Your Strong-Willed Child

Some children are naturally independent and opinionated — even used to getting their own way. In short, they can be obstinate or defiant at times. This makes your job as a parent all the more challenging. A typical strong-willed child often misbehaves or refuses to test your love and limits. It could be there are… Read More

5 Quick Parent-Child Bonding Activities

With back-to-school season here once again, the dog days of summer shift dramatically into busy mode. Suddenly, schedules feel packed. In between morning commutes, after-school sports or weekend extracurricular activities, it seems that there’s barely time to update each other on your day. You’re not alone. Life swirls at a hectic pace in most families.… Read More

6 Reasons Why You Have a Pushover Problem

Your phone rings or an incoming text chimes. You’re greeted with the same all-too-familiar message: “Can you help with…” or “Can you do me a favor?” As always, you are the go-to person in your family, friend circle or work group to handle a crisis or solve an issue. And, as usual, you’ll do it… Read More

Will the Only Child Bashing Ever End?

More families worldwide are choosing to have one child. However, unfair attitudes still abound. Even though I, and others, have spent decades shedding light on only child discrimination and stereotypes, we continue to see and hear baseless only child bashing. Recently, I spotted advice offered in a daily newspaper’s parenting Q & A section. It… Read More

5 Ways to Assert Rules with Your Teen

When your child was younger, he or she routinely looked to you for answers or assistance, from learning to tie his shoes to help with homework. That made you feel needed and loved — popular with your own child. Then everything changed: You parent a teen now who is not keen on all your rules.… Read More

3 Secrets to Relationship Contentment

Most of us equate happy relationships with harmony: getting along, agreeing, and not disappointing one another. In the extreme, however, always striving to keep things rosy with a spouse or partner can be draining … and has the potential to strain the bond. There’s much more to relationship contentment than avoiding fights. In order to… Read More

How Technology Causes ‘Brain Drain’ & Weakens Family Connections

It’s no secret that the advent of smartphones and other technology puts strains on family life. Technology also causes a brain drain. According to recent data from the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, children now spend more than seven and a half hours a day in front of a screen. (“Screen” includes cellphones,… Read More

Quiz: Who Makes Your Life the Most Difficult or Stressful?

Often, it’s easy to get swept up into regularly responding to requests with a yes rather than a default no. You may not even recognize your willingness or selflessness as a hindrance. Some people are more difficult to refuse than others. Who gets you to say “yes” most often? Who makes your life the most… Read More

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3 Easy Fixes to Avoid Being Overworked on the Job

Most of us don’t have enough — or any — work-life balance. It always seems just out of reach. Especially for those who consider themselves dedicated, loyal employees, we don’t know how to avoid being overworked. Stress becomes a part of life.  If you feel overworked, it’s likely that you are pushing your limits, putting… Read More

5 Unexpected Benefits of Saying No That Every Parent Should Know

5 Unexpected Benefits of Saying No That Every Parent Should Know

If you’re like many parents, the prospect of saying no to your children sometimes feels uncomfortable or difficult. The benefits of saying no are unknown. You may believe that it’s simply easier to cave in. After all, how bad is your daughter’s request for another scoop of ice cream? Or, how harmful is it to… Read More

8 Ways to be the Adult in the Room with Your Parents

8 Ways to be the Adult in the Room with Your Parents

It is not unusual for adult children—be they 25, 35, 55, or older—to suddenly act like their 10-year-old selves with their parents. It can feel as if you have no control over the situation, but you do have choices in an effort to stop bending to parents’ wishes and demands.… Read More

How to Help Children Stand Up to Peer Cruelty & Stop Bullying

How to Help Children Stand Up to Peer Cruelty & Stop Bullying

In this guest post, Dr. Michele Borba, an educational psychologist and parenting and bullying expert, offers specific, evidence-based tips on bullying prevention. Her latest book, End Peer Cruelty, Build Empathy, helps teachers and parents instruct children on how to step in safely to halt bullying. Dr. Borba emphasizes how creating a caring culture based on… Read More

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Quiz: Are Your Friendships Working for You?

In all their different roles, our friends are supportive, can be counted on, and enjoyable—at the least, that’s what we hope they will be. Take the quiz to evaluate your friendships and learn how to strengthen them.… Read More

5 Ways to Protect Your Boundaries

5 Ways to Protect Your Boundaries This Holiday Season

It’s the most wonderful time of the year. Or, for you is it a runaway celebration train of obligations and a mile-long to-do list? You can change that by protecting your personal boundaries.… Read More

How One Mom Stopped People-Pleasing and Got Her Life Back

My favorite day of the year is the day we switch from Daylight Savings Time to Standard Time. The clock goes back, giving me a precious extra hour. I always seem to need more time — over the years, my growing people-pleasing tendencies haven’t helped. I don’t recall being in such demand in my 20s.… Read More

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Making Their Lists, But Not Checking Them Twice

Making Their Lists, But Not Checking Them Twice: Why parents can’t – but should – say no. Whether you have toddlers or teens, a parent’s natural tendency is to strive for content and happy children. But, saying yes to what can feel like an endless stream of wants morphs into a damaging cycle that I call “yes-parenting.” Learn… Read More

29 Only child Requests

29 Only Child Requests: Parents, the Correct Response is No

Yes, I said yes to my only child and stepped in or gave in. Saying yes is a trap only child parents fall into. Saying no, however, teaches important life lessons. Read more… Read More

Do You Have a People-Pleasing Problem

Do You Have a People-Pleasing Problem?

When someone asks you for a favor, a “yes, sure” is out of your mouth before the reality of the commitment registers. You may have a people-pleasing problem. It’s not uncommon for many of us to wonder how we got roped into being the family’s go-to task person, an extra office assignment, or making arrangements… Read More

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What’s Your Parenting Stress Level? 4 Tools for Coping

How do you know your own parenting stress level? Jessica Valenti, author of Why Have Kids?, believes that if you’ve ever felt like you face an onslaught of constant worries, demands, and sudden curveballs, you’re not alone. Valenti writes, “Nearly every study done in the last ten years on parental happiness shows a marked decline in… Read More

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3 Ways to Prevent Teen DXM Abuse

Your family medicine cabinet seems less threatening than hard drugs or alcohol abuse. However, consider this: Some teens turn to easily accessible over-the-counter cough medicine for a buzz. We’ll look at three ways to prevent teen DXM abuse. In this guest post, Anita Brikman, from the Consumer Healthcare Products Association, presents things parents can do… Read More

Only Child Stereotypes: Fact vs. Fiction

Proponents of large or larger families claim your only child will be spoiled, lonely, or selfish or worse. These 7 social stereotypes and others date back to the late 1890s and have no basis in fact and probably never did… … Read More

10 Memorable Ways to Celebrate Mother’s Day

Here are 10 creative, memorable ways to spend Mother’s Day together as a family.… Read More

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The Value of Sibling Relationships: Don’t Listen to the Stereotypes

If you are the parent of one child, it’s hard not to think about only child stereotypes and hope that none of them will apply to your child. To that end, you try to teach your child not to be selfish or bossy or to insist on having everything his own way. Such behavior is… Read More

6 Smart Ways to Interact with Your In-Laws After the Baby Arrives

Plenty of people struggle with maintaining happy and healthy relations with their in-laws. Bring a newborn into the equation and unexpected sticky in-law situations can quickly arise. You likely spent a lot of time with your in-laws before getting married. And you may have felt that they were involved in your pregnancy — baby showers,… Read More

The Firstborn-Only Child Edge

There is no right or wrong family size, but there is strong evidence demonstrating a firstborn and only child edge. In families, the finite resources parents have means that any given sibling will be given less time and attention than if they were an only child. In essence, siblings compete for whatever their parents can provide. … Read More

Why We Brag About Our Kids: Parental Pride Has No Age Limit

Modesty is in short supply when it comes to our offspring be they 5 or 45 years old. Here’s why. … Read More

25 Days of Little Things

How are you and your family making this holiday season extra memorable? … Read More

Five Parent-Proven Strategies for Managing Stress

Here are five parent-proven strategies for putting the brakes on stress so that you can be the calm and caring parent you want to be.… Read More

How Parents Can Prevent Teen Medicine Abuse

What’s in your medicine cabinet that could lead to teen medicine abuse? The cough medicine—harmless, right? Yes, if taken as directed. However, the active ingredient in most over-the-counter cough medicines can produce serious side effects if taken excessively.… Read More

Dethroned: Sharing Mom and Dad With a New Sibling

Parents of only children will likely agree: their singleton rules the roost. So, what happens when a baby is on the way? … Read More

New Only Child Stereotype: Only Children Prone to Overweight

There’s a new only-child stereotype brewing. Are only children really more likely to be overweight or obese? A potential new stereotype links childhood obesity to family size, birth order and, specifically, to only children. Since 1896 when psychologist G. Stanley Hall pronounced only children were lonely, selfish, and bossy, these stereotypes have stuck. A number… Read More

Older Moms: 40 is the New 30

The”older moms” trend is clear: More women in their late thirties and well into their forties are starting families.… Read More

Mothers With One Child Are Happiest

Having an only child is desirable from a wide range of viewpoints and practicalities, but that doesn’t make decisions about family size any easier.… Read More

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When Does Mothering Become Smothering?

A parent’s impulse is to coddle, but how much is too much?

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Sweethearts-in-Training: 15 Valentine Tips

How you treat your partner on Valentine’s Day speaks volumes to your children.
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Spoiled? Not My Kid

We live in an age of yes-parenting, in a culture of parents who can’t say NO to their offspring whatever their age and whatever the number of children in the family. Yet, it’s common practice to categorize parents of only children as indulgent and overlook the same parental behavior in parents who have more than one child.… Read More

Do Children Need Siblings to Become Good Sports?

If your toddler refuses to share a toy or take turns, even if the person doesn’t say the words, you know she is thinking: If that child had a sibling she wouldn’t behave this way. But is it true? Do children need siblings to learn social skills?… Read More

Shyness: Biologically Based? A Mental Disorder? or A Quirk?

When and how should a child’s shyness be treated?
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Ready for Baby? Choosing Single Motherhood

Should women bother waiting for their dream guy to become mothers? Arguably not. … Read More

Only Child Benefits, According to Those Who Lived It

Onlies in their 20s, 40s, 60s and 70s shared their feelings and revealed five distinct advantages to being an only child.… Read More

10 Tips for Reducing Holiday Stress

For some people the holidays are a time for friends, family, and relaxation, but for many, even most, the pressure to get everything done and be merry is just too much.… Read More

More Babies, More Housework for Moms? Not Necessarily

Despite the fact that more women than ever before have full-time jobs outside the home, household labor remains largely the mother’s responsibility. So perhaps it isn’t surprising that more and more women are choosing to have only one child.… Read More

How to Bring Extra Love to the Holidays

The holidays are a fine time to reconnect with your family. … Read More

7 Tricks (and Treats) for a Memorable Halloween

Making your children part of happy Halloween celebrations fuels feelings of closeness for all family members. … Read More

9 Ways to Make Thanksgiving Extra-Memorable for Your Kids

When Thanksgiving rolls around, invite your children to partake in rituals or simply help out. It gives them a sense of purpose and fuels feelings of closeness for all family members.… Read More