The Book of NO: 365 Ways to Say It and Mean It and Stop People-Pleasing Forever
Do you have trouble saying NO?
Is it difficult to refuse your friends, your boss, your kids, your spouse—even perfect strangers? Saying “no” is rarely easy. Often, it’s downright uncomfortable. But constantly saying “yes” causes anxiety, anger, stress, regret, and feelings of powerlessness.
Social psychologist and author Dr. Susan Newman empowers you to break your debilitating yes habit with her simple techniques and insights. This new, enhanced edition is filled with research and timely scenarios that offer more ways to say “no” without feeling guilty or damaging your relationships.
You’ll discover how to:
- Recognize when someone is manipulating you into “yes”
- Be ready with the words you need to refuse
- Avoid being overcommitted, overworked and overwhelmed
- Put an end to feelings of resentment or frustration
- Find and reserve time for things you want to do
- Establish and keep your boundaries strong
Harness the power of “No” and take back your life.
Little Things Long Remembered: Making Your Children Feel Special Every Day
Little Things Long Remembered, updated for today’s time-strapped families, offers hundreds of ways to create treasured childhood rituals. Chock full of thoughtful and loving ideas that mean a lot — especially to children.
Small parcels of time well spent shape long-lasting memories that are the backbone of family unity…and the glue that holds families together.
Chapters are divided into convenient time frames: Gestures to strengthen family ties that take seconds, activities when you have five minutes, half an hour, or over the weekend. Plus, special circumstance suggestions for when your child is not feeling well or when you travel, for birthdays, major and minor holidays—including a set of Cardinal Rules to insure whatever you do is fun, builds character and celebrates your family.
Every single day offers fertile ground for creating positive recollections. Dig in to find “little things” that will inspire loving remembrances of growing up…and of you. Little Things… is the perfect new baby, Mother or Father’s Day, or any day gift for parents and grandparents.… Read More
The Case for the Only Child: Your Essential Guide
Although parenting approaches change, attitudes about only children remain stuck in the past.
The negative stereotypes — lonely, selfish, bossy, spoiled, socially maladjusted — make parents think their child will be at a disadvantage when compared to those who grew up with siblings.
The Case for the Only Child debunks the myths, taking into account the many changes the nuclear family has experienced in the face of two-family incomes, single parenting, women starting families later, and the economic reality of raising children in our modern world. Combining often-surprising findings with real-life stories, compassionate insight, and thought-provoking questions, Newman gives readers a guide to help them decide for themselves how to best plan their family and raise a single child.
- Provides fascinating facts and statistics to show the reason for the rapid rise in the number of singletons
- Explores pressure from friends, relatives, and strangers to have a second child… and how to deal with it
- Demystifies the realities of raising and being an only child
- Answers the difficult question: Does a child need a sibling?
Under One Roof Again: All Grown Up and (Re)learning to Live Together Happily
As nest eggs shrink, parents are moving in with their adult children and grandchildren in record numbers. Similarly, more and more adult children are returning home to their parents.
With jobs scarce and unemployment high, more and more adult children, be they recent college grads (77% of them in 2009) or on their own for a while, are returning home to their parents.
Under One Roof Again squarely addresses the inevitable and sensitive issues—from money matters to boundaries—that arise when formerly parent-child relationships become adult-adult ones. Drawing on her own research with family members already living together and on academic studies, social psychologist Susan Newman, a leading authority in the family relationship and parenting fields, provides solid advice for avoiding the snags and building stronger family ties when family members rejoin each other for long or short time periods.
Praise for Under One Roof Again
“In her author’s note, Newman (The Book of No, Parenting an Only Child) compares the mystery of functioning families to the splitting of the atom and the prevention of global warming. Living in harmony with one’s returning child and/or family or one’s parents is about as complicated. To help with the resurgence of this phenomenon, Newman offers practical considerations, from protecting privacy and sticking to food preferences to dealing with money and respecting others’ time. Verdict: Newman covers all the bases, and her book is essential reading for those facing this situation. Following her advice can make the difference between enjoying the richness of another generation or simply tolerating it.”… Read More
Parenting An Only Child: The Joys and Challenges of Raising Your One and Only
Whether it’s by choice or fate, having a single child presents unique considerations, opportunities, and advantages.
Dr. Susan Newman—who has studied only child families since the 1980s—shatters the myths of the lonely, spoiled, bossy only child. Parenting an Only Child provides in-depth coverage of the critical issues such as:
- Making the right family size decision for you
- Maintaining a balance of power in a three-member household
- Single parenting the only child
- Setting boundaries with a child who is used to having your undivided attention
- Fostering high achievement, creativity and independence in only children
- Warning signs when a parent’s expectations are too high or pressure is too great
- The effects of having parents, instead of siblings, as role models
- Confronting age-old stereotypes
- Withstanding the pressure to have another
- Building family networks and other support systems for the future
Parenting an Only Child is the essential handbook for raising an only child or for exploring the option. It separates fact from fiction and offers fascinating findings and family stories. The down-to-earth advice makes it your supportive guide for raising a happy, well-adjusted child.… Read More
Nobody’s Baby Now: Reinventing Your Adult Relationship with Your Mother and Father
This breakthrough book provides insight into your own family dynamics.
It provides the tools to keep disagreements to a minimum, turn intolerable situations around, and transform your adult child-parent relationship into a mature, supportive, and loving connection. Why bother? Because how you relate to your parents is probably how your children will treat you when they are grownups.
Nobody’s Baby Now proves that it’s never too late or too difficult to break destructive patterns and tells you exactly how to do it. Situations, specific suggestions and checklists deal with everything from minor annoyances and pet peeves to long held grudges.
Each chapter takes on a different but common cause of strife including:
- dealing with parents’ meddlesome or controlling behaviors
- getting parents to accept the person you love
- establishing comfortable boundaries
- addressing time pressures
- coping with money issues
- accepting parents’ new partners, stepfamilies, and blended families
- handling in-law jealousies
- understanding how sibling problems affect your relationship with parents
- making independent career decisions and more
Little Things Mean A Lot: Creating Happy Memories with Your Grandchildren
Little Things Mean A Lot opens with “The Grandparent Credo” to remind you how important you are in a grandchild’s life and to guide you as you fill your grandchildren’s memory banks with happy memories and form forever bonds.
It’s the perfect gift to honor the arrival of a new grandbaby or for Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Grandparents’ Day, or just to thank grandparents for adding so much to family life.
Learn how to:
- Ask your grandchild to teach you a dance step or exercise.
- Involve your grandchild in your volunteer work.
- Create stories in which your grandchild is the star.
- Sing at the top of your lungs together.
Let’s Always… Promises to Make Love Last
Too often busy schedules, parenting demands, or career goals take a front seat to personal relationships. People forget that making our partner feel important, special, and cherished is essential. This romantic primer promises to do just that.
A Media Play bestseller
Featured in Woman’s World
Featured in Gannett Newspapers
– I love you because…you always want to celebrate our first date.
– I promise always to…resist the temptation to have the last word
– I promise never to…suppress my desire to be with you.
Other Books by Susan Newman
Here is a list of other books by Susan Newman
- Little Things Shared: Lasting Connections Between Family and Friends (Random House/Crown)
- Getting Your Child Into College: What Parents Must Know (St. Martin’s Press)
- Don’t Be S.A.D.: A Teenage Guide to Stress, Anxiety & Depression (Simon & Schuster/Julian Messner)
- It Won’t Happen to Me: True Stories of Teen Alcohol and Drug Abuse (Putnam/Perigee)
- You Can Say No To a Drink or a Drug: What Every Kid Should Know (Putnam/Perigee)
- Never Say Yes to a Stranger: What Your Child Must Know to Stay Safe (Putnam/Perigee)
- Memorable Birthdays: Now a Guide, Later a Gift (Mothers Manual Press)