Do You Have
Trouble Saying NO?

Is it difficult to refuse your friends, your boss, your kids, your spouse—even perfect strangers? Saying “no” is rarely easy. Often, it’s downright uncomfortable. But constantly saying “yes” causes anxiety, anger, stress, regret, and feelings of powerlessness.

Social psychologist and author Dr. Susan Newman empowers you to break your debilitating yes habit with her simple techniques and insights. This new, enhanced edition is filled with research and timely scenarios that offer more ways to say “no” without feeling guilty or damaging your relationships.

You’ll discover how to:

  • Recognize when someone is manipulating you into “yes”
  • Be ready with the words you need to refuse
  • Avoid being overcommitted, overworked and overwhelmed
  • Put an end to feelings of resentment or frustration
  • Find and reserve time for things you want to do
  • Establish and keep your boundaries strong

Harness the power of “No” and take back your life.

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Up Your NO-how

Tip #1

Saying no means making a conscious effort—choosing—to be in charge of your life.

Tip #2

Save “I’m sorry” for when you have actually done something wrong.

Tip #3

Turn down those who flatter or attempt to pressure you into a yes.

Tip #4

Saying no is very often a time management issue; pay attention to what you have to do before accepting.

Tip #5

Always request details before agreeing to what is asked of you.

Tip #6

Refuse anyone who insists on an immediate answer.

Tip #7

Whatever you say “yes” to will eventually force you to say “no” to something and somebody else that you really want to help.

Tip #8

Not every friend has to be your closest, or deserves your complete devotion.

Tip #9

Children get over disappointment far faster than adults. Your kids are more resilient than you probably realize.

Come back soon for more tips!

What People Are Saying

  • A colossal, common, and vexing problem, which causes many other devilishly inescapable problems, is not saying ‘No’ before ‘Yes’ leaps out of your mouth. In this priceless, practical, pithy volume, Dr. Susan Newman uses her wisdom, wiles, and wit to teach you—kind, nice, good, and giving person that you are —how to bow out gracefully, how to decline an offer without giving offense, and how to teach others to do the same thing. This book is a game-changer and a life saver!
  • Edward Hallowell, M.D., author of Driven to Distraction and other books

  • If you want to be a good friend, team player, and nice person, but always seem to put yourself—and the things you want—last, The Book of No is for you. It helps break down the stigma and guilt associated with saying no, and provides hundreds of practical tips for exactly how to say it in specific circumstances and relationships. You’ll learn the psychology behind why you get sucked into saying yes too often and what to do to stop.
  • Alice Boyes, Ph.D., author of The Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points

  • The Book of No is a must-read for the pushover tendency in all of us who agree to most things asked of us. Leading relationship psychologist Susan Newman explains you why you say “Yes” too often and how to say “No” graciously without feeling guilty or offending. Think of it as your life-preserver and go-to guide for navigating relationships with your friends, family, spouse, boss, co-workers, parents, kids…even strangers. You’ll want to say “Yes” to The Book of No and keep it close by.
  • Michele Borba, Ed.D., educational psychologist and author of UnSelfie: Why Empathic Kids Succeed in Our All-About-Me World

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  • Sometimes you have to say ‘no’ so you have time to say ‘yes’ to what really matters—the things that are important to you, preserve your health, and add to your happiness. That’s the powerful takeaway message from this realistic guide to kicking the yes-habit and embracing the power of no.
  • Ann Douglas, author of Parenting Through the Storm

  • The Book of NO gives people the courage to stand up for themselves. Reading it is both helpful and a delight; you find yourself sighing with gratitude, feeling freer because you have the exact words to say “no,” and thinking who else in your life needs this book.”
  • Jody J. Foster, M.D., MBA and Michelle T. Joy, M.D., co-authors of The Schmuck in My Office: How to Deal Effectively with Difficult People at Work

  • All too often we find ourselves overworked and overstressed because we take on too much at work or at home. In short, we have trouble saying “no”! Dr. Susan Newman’s book is an essential guide for those of us who are too agreeable, nice, or helpful, and really don’t know how to set critical limits.
  • Ronald E. Riggio, Ph.D., professor of Leadership and Organizational Psychology, Claremont McKenna College

  • In a world infected by instant gratification and murky boundaries, saying “no” – and sticking to it – is quickly becoming a lost art. The good news is that Susan Newman is here to help. Using detailed examples, humor, and actionable steps, Newman helps us explore our own obstacles to setting and maintaining healthy boundaries and empowers us to put an end to personal overload. In saying “yes” to “no”, we just might make a dent in putting an end to our current culture of busy.
  • Katie Hurley, LCSW, author of No More Mean Girls and The Happy Kid Handbook

  • For many of us, it’s very difficult to say no. We’re asked to take on extra assignments at work and help colleagues and clients with projects that might be outside our official job description. We’re asked favors by our friends, by our families; and sometimes even by our LinkedIn connections. And yes, it’s nice to help, but we can end up overburdened. In The Book of No, Susan Newman offers great strategies and tips for learning to say no. This book is going to be my new go-to volume for putting a bit more “no” in my life — and in the life of my clients, colleagues, and friends.
  • Andy Molinsky, Ph.D., professor of Organizational Behavior and International Management, Brandeis University and author of Reach and Global Dexterity

  • In this updated edition of The Book of No, social psychologist Susan Newman offers research and immensely practical tools to help us set boundaries and stop people-pleasing. The book is fun, easy to read and provides scenarios like requests to look after a relative’s children, drive your teen to the mall, or give up your weekend plans to do last-minute work. Along with each scenario are specific dialogues that demonstrate exactly what to say. The “No” responses are right on target – assertive and clear, yet respectful. So many of us struggle to skillfully set boundaries without hurting our relationships. This book is just what we need!
  • Melanie Greenberg, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of The Stress-Proof Brain

  • A wise and practical guide to living a life that fits your personal values, Susan Newman’s newest book is a treasure trove of realistic scenarios and thoughtful responses to help you let go of commitments that leave you feeling resentful and depleted. Whether it’s a whining child or a demanding acquaintance, a guilt-tripping relative or an unreasonable work colleague, The Book of No offers do-able strategies for setting healthy boundaries so you can say “Yes!” to the things that truly matter to you.
  • Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, Princeton, NJ psychologist and co-author of Growing Friendships: A Kids’ Guide to Making and Keeping Friends

  • This book will free you. It is one of the most liberating, empowering and practical topics I’ve seen…and Susan Newman does a masterful job bringing it home.
  • Joseph Grenny, New York Times bestselling co-author of Crucial Confrontations

  • The skill of saying ‘no’ is essential for a life of freedom and dignity. Dr. Newman’s book, through a series of carefully analyzed examples, teaches that skill.
  • Herbert Fensterheim, Ph.D., co-author of Don’t Say Yes When You Want to Say No

  • I make a living by telling people that saying ‘NO’ to unsuitable clients is the key to prosperity in business. Dr. Newman broadens the ‘No’ principle even further. She’s built a convincing case that judicious use of this powerful two-letter word is the key to a richer, more authentic, happier life. Will you read this book? For one, I urge you to say ‘Yes.
  • Kim DeMotte, author of The Positive Power of No: How that Little Word You Love to Hate Can Make or Break Your Business